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by coachespet 10/03/12, 05:18 pm
Have a 12 year old that has lost all confidence with the ball, just freaks out when gets the ball, turns it over, makes a rushed bad panic pass, just plays scared. Has any body experienced this before, or have any advice, I have tried everything I know and am about to give up. HELP!
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Re: player confidence
by coachr 10/03/12, 09:05 pm
Sounds like she has a case of the hormones. This disease is known to turn stud youth athletes into girls! Unfortunately there's no cure.coachespet wrote:Have a 12 year old that has lost all confidence with the ball, just freaks out when gets the ball, turns it over, makes a rushed bad panic pass, just plays scared. Has any body experienced this before, or have any advice, I have tried everything I know and am about to give up. HELP!
Honestly, ask her if she needs a break. When you ask her do it in a low stress situation and make sure you're honest with the offer.
DD needs to be more important than any commitment.
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Re: player confidence
by soccer4fun 10/03/12, 11:50 pm
all of the above; put her in winning and fun situations with low to no stress. Perhaps a 3 v 3 tournement with some friends, indoor team with classmates or maybe a break for a while
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Re: player confidence
by Guest 11/03/12, 08:57 am
coachespet wrote:Have a 12 year old that has lost all confidence with the ball, just freaks out when gets the ball, turns it over, makes a rushed bad panic pass, just plays scared. Has any body experienced this before, or have any advice, I have tried everything I know and am about to give up. HELP!
My opinion, get her with a skills coach that will re-build her confidence on the ball. Make sure he is also putting her in small sided games 3v3 2v2 to work on the skill developement in a game situation. Also dont panic it is fairly common for players to forget how they got to the level they are at! Low pressure skills training will build her back up. Be careful about putting her in leagues playing small sided, alot of her being scared comes from the increased pressure on players to play perfect every game and win. My two cents! if you need a good trainer low pressure great guy PM me!
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Re: player confidence
by Type 1 left-footer 11/03/12, 09:27 am
Definitely find a way to build her confidence back up. Skills or playing indoor with a lower level team that she can practice keeping the ball without the extra pressure of too much speed. Skills as Totalsoccer suggested.
Most importantly...Look at the path that got her to this point. If you see what is causing it that might help.
What position is she playing on the field? Is she feeling the pressure of clearing the ball or getting the ball passed up the line for a defensive position? Trying to speed up the attack as a mid-fielder by getting the ball to her forwards immediately rather than using speed/space? etc..
Do coaches or her teammates yell at her to pass almost as soon as she gets the ball?
Did her playtime get cut causing her to extra nervous to do well?
What does coach do in practice? Lots of passing and very little dribbling with the ball can cause some unseen effects. I generally can go to a Saturday game and she what the girls did at the practices that week. If coach worked solely on small sized passing and no shooting. The girls will pass the ball to death before someone actually shoots. If my dd did nothing but crossing in all week for the other girls to crush it then she wants to cross the ball the entire game instead of mixing it up.
Unfortunately my DD goes through this every fall. Coach sees the great crosses and wants those rather than her to actually do anything with the ball but dribble at full speed then cross the ball in to the forwards. Unfortunately her brain goes on auto pilot and she sometimes manages to out run everyone and cross into no one rather than take a shot. So every winter break we spend hours in camps/skills/indoor for her to remember that she can tackle, dribble, and shoot like everyone else.
Most importantly...Look at the path that got her to this point. If you see what is causing it that might help.
What position is she playing on the field? Is she feeling the pressure of clearing the ball or getting the ball passed up the line for a defensive position? Trying to speed up the attack as a mid-fielder by getting the ball to her forwards immediately rather than using speed/space? etc..
Do coaches or her teammates yell at her to pass almost as soon as she gets the ball?
Did her playtime get cut causing her to extra nervous to do well?
What does coach do in practice? Lots of passing and very little dribbling with the ball can cause some unseen effects. I generally can go to a Saturday game and she what the girls did at the practices that week. If coach worked solely on small sized passing and no shooting. The girls will pass the ball to death before someone actually shoots. If my dd did nothing but crossing in all week for the other girls to crush it then she wants to cross the ball the entire game instead of mixing it up.
Unfortunately my DD goes through this every fall. Coach sees the great crosses and wants those rather than her to actually do anything with the ball but dribble at full speed then cross the ball in to the forwards. Unfortunately her brain goes on auto pilot and she sometimes manages to out run everyone and cross into no one rather than take a shot. So every winter break we spend hours in camps/skills/indoor for her to remember that she can tackle, dribble, and shoot like everyone else.
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Re: player confidence
by pull_your_line 11/03/12, 12:21 pm
Every BB or DD will turn the ball over at some point in the game. Its what they do after the turn over, do they try and win the ball back or jog walk back up the field with head down as they here come on from the parents or coach in some cases teammates? As far as the panic pass that is an extension of the above,bb or dd would rather kick it wildly and to no one or in most instances to the other team for fear of turning the ball over they just kick it and dont care where.
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Re: player confidence
by Busby Babes 20/03/12, 12:58 pm
totalsoccer wrote:coachespet wrote:Have a 12 year old that has lost all confidence with the ball, just freaks out when gets the ball, turns it over, makes a rushed bad panic pass, just plays scared. Has any body experienced this before, or have any advice, I have tried everything I know and am about to give up. HELP!
My opinion, get her with a skills coach that will re-build her confidence on the ball. Make sure he is also putting her in small sided games 3v3 2v2 to work on the skill developement in a game situation. Also dont panic it is fairly common for players to forget how they got to the level they are at! Low pressure skills training will build her back up. Be careful about putting her in leagues playing small sided, alot of her being scared comes from the increased pressure on players to play perfect every game and win. My two cents! if you need a good trainer low pressure great guy PM me!
This is correct. The small-sided games and skills will help rebuild her confidence, and at the same time reinforce her decision making.
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Re: player confidence
by butt3r 20/03/12, 01:03 pm
Busby Babes wrote:totalsoccer wrote:coachespet wrote:Have a 12 year old that has lost all confidence with the ball, just freaks out when gets the ball, turns it over, makes a rushed bad panic pass, just plays scared. Has any body experienced this before, or have any advice, I have tried everything I know and am about to give up. HELP!
My opinion, get her with a skills coach that will re-build her confidence on the ball. Make sure he is also putting her in small sided games 3v3 2v2 to work on the skill developement in a game situation. Also dont panic it is fairly common for players to forget how they got to the level they are at! Low pressure skills training will build her back up. Be careful about putting her in leagues playing small sided, alot of her being scared comes from the increased pressure on players to play perfect every game and win. My two cents! if you need a good trainer low pressure great guy PM me!
This is correct. The small-sided games and skills will help rebuild her confidence, and at the same time reinforce her decision making.
Or it will magnify her fears by exposing her weaknesses. My DD's team splits up and plays futsal on occasion, and when they do, some girls (even girls that do just fine on the big field) cannot compete at all and get discouraged.
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Re: player confidence
by Busby Babes 20/03/12, 01:11 pm
butt3r wrote:Busby Babes wrote:totalsoccer wrote:coachespet wrote:Have a 12 year old that has lost all confidence with the ball, just freaks out when gets the ball, turns it over, makes a rushed bad panic pass, just plays scared. Has any body experienced this before, or have any advice, I have tried everything I know and am about to give up. HELP!
My opinion, get her with a skills coach that will re-build her confidence on the ball. Make sure he is also putting her in small sided games 3v3 2v2 to work on the skill developement in a game situation. Also dont panic it is fairly common for players to forget how they got to the level they are at! Low pressure skills training will build her back up. Be careful about putting her in leagues playing small sided, alot of her being scared comes from the increased pressure on players to play perfect every game and win. My two cents! if you need a good trainer low pressure great guy PM me!
This is correct. The small-sided games and skills will help rebuild her confidence, and at the same time reinforce her decision making.
Or it will magnify her fears by exposing her weaknesses. My DD's team splits up and plays futsal on occasion, and when they do, some girls (even girls that do just fine on the big field) cannot compete at all and get discouraged.
That's always a possibility. A proper skills coach and hrs put into it will go a long way though.
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by coachr 20/03/12, 01:56 pm
.Busby Babes wrote:butt3r wrote:Busby Babes wrote:totalsoccer wrote:coachespet wrote:Have a 12 year old that has lost all confidence with the ball, just freaks out when gets the ball, turns it over, makes a rushed bad panic pass, just plays scared. Has any body experienced this before, or have any advice, I have tried everything I know and am about to give up. HELP!
My opinion, get her with a skills coach that will re-build her confidence on the ball. Make sure he is also putting her in small sided games 3v3 2v2 to work on the skill developement in a game situation. Also dont panic it is fairly common for players to forget how they got to the level they are at! Low pressure skills training will build her back up. Be careful about putting her in leagues playing small sided, alot of her being scared comes from the increased pressure on players to play perfect every game and win. My two cents! if you need a good trainer low pressure great guy PM me!
This is correct. The small-sided games and skills will help rebuild her confidence, and at the same time reinforce her decision making.
Or it will magnify her fears by exposing her weaknesses. My DD's team splits up and plays futsal on occasion, and when they do, some girls (even girls that do just fine on the big field) cannot compete at all and get discouraged.
That's always a possibility. A proper skills coach and hrs put into it will go a long way though.
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Re: player confidence
by imasoccerfreak 20/03/12, 02:05 pm
My daughter is going through the same thing. I have considered letting her play rec in addition to club, where she could shine without pressure or fear. But I'm nervous about her getting hurt, picking up bad habits, etc... plus it will be hard to find a rec coach that will allow her to miss practices on a regular basis. We're doing extra skills, but she does ok in training. It's games where she tends to panic and make bad choices out of fear. It's hard to replicate that situation in a private skills session. I'm just praying it's a phase.
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Re: player confidence
by Guest 20/03/12, 02:13 pm
imasoccerfreak wrote:My daughter is going through the same thing. I have considered letting her play rec in addition to club, where she could shine without pressure or fear. But I'm nervous about her getting hurt, picking up bad habits, etc... plus it will be hard to find a rec coach that will allow her to miss practices on a regular basis. We're doing extra skills, but she does ok in training. It's games where she tends to panic and make bad choices out of fear. It's hard to replicate that situation in a private skills session. I'm just praying it's a phase.
I let my '02 dd play rec this season for the first time in 2 yrs...since it is her last chance to do, and luckily her coach played select so she understands and is glad to have her when she is available. I think it has made my dd more confident with her footwork and playing with her feet...she is a keeper and is playing the field for rec so it is a chance for something different for her. I have to tell her not to go over board at practice and games...she tries to use every skill she has ever learned just to show off...in a way it is good practice for her to use them in real situations/games but on the other hand, no one likes a show off.
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by butt3r 20/03/12, 06:03 pm
Busby Babes wrote: A proper skills coach and hrs put into it will go a long way though.
Numchuck Skills? Bowhunting skills? Computer hacking skills?
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Re: player confidence
by coachr 20/03/12, 09:38 pm
butt3r wrote:Busby Babes wrote: A proper skills coach and hrs put into it will go a long way though.
Numchuck Skills? Bowhunting skills? Computer hacking skills?
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Re: player confidence
by santos.l.halper 21/03/12, 04:01 pm
coachespet wrote:Have a 12 year old that has lost all confidence with the ball, just freaks out when gets the ball, turns it over, makes a rushed bad panic pass, just plays scared. Has any body experienced this before, or have any advice, I have tried everything I know and am about to give up. HELP!
Obviously, the root issue is that she is afraid to make a mistake. So I would investigate:
1. How does coach handle when players make a mistake? Does she get yelled at? Does he try to correct and encourage to do better next time? Does she get pulled and benched for the rest of the game (or even the next one!)?
2. How do her parents handle her mistakes (need a mirror here)
3. How do her teammates handle her mistakes? Do they point fingers and blame? Is there lots of team drama among the girls? Are there cliques that gang up on her and others?
I agree that skills work will build confidence. However, I have seen too many coaches, parents and teammates yelling at the poor DDs who are apparently the only ones who ever screw up as 12 year olds.
If the problem is #1 and #3, then it's time for a change. With #2, then you may or may not know what to do.
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Re: player confidence
by Criss70 21/03/12, 05:12 pm
santos.l.halper wrote:coachespet wrote:Have a 12 year old that has lost all confidence with the ball, just freaks out when gets the ball, turns it over, makes a rushed bad panic pass, just plays scared. Has any body experienced this before, or have any advice, I have tried everything I know and am about to give up. HELP!
Obviously, the root issue is that she is afraid to make a mistake. So I would investigate:
1. How does coach handle when players make a mistake? Does she get yelled at? Does he try to correct and encourage to do better next time? Does she get pulled and benched for the rest of the game (or even the next one!)?
2. How do her parents handle her mistakes (need a mirror here)
3. How do her teammates handle her mistakes? Do they point fingers and blame? Is there lots of team drama among the girls? Are there cliques that gang up on her and others?
I agree that skills work will build confidence. However, I have seen too many coaches, parents and teammates yelling at the poor DDs who are apparently the only ones who ever screw up as 12 year olds.
If the problem is #1 and #3, then it's time for a change. With #2, then you may or may not know what to do.
I agree with point #3. My DD was going through the same thing with her select team. Coach put her in a position that she is not used to playing. When she made a mistake, she got yelled at by her team mates. The thing that cured it for her, was her high school team. She loves playing on her high school team, and it shows. She has really picked up her game. I know that your DD is only twelve, but a change in teams might be the cure you are looking for. Bottom line, if she is not having fun, or enjoying playing, then a change needs to be made.
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