DTS (04) - Thanks for the teaching opportunity!

yellowcard5 wrote:You should voice your concerns.  My point is that voicing them on a soccer forum is not going to yield the results that can make a difference.  Take the appropriate action and call NTX Soccer, Dallas Texans, Tournament Director, etc and let them know what happened.  These organizations do not take kindly to this type of behavior because it hurts their brand.  You have to go through the process, but in the end if one moron can be removed from the sidelines we are all better off.

yellowcard5 wrote:Ron White once said "you can't fix stupid."

There absolutely is an acceptable standard of behavior on the sidelines but just like laws that are set in our society, there will always be those that just don't think they apply to them.

You are free to use any incident you wish to teach your children valuable life lessons...and I agree that this was probably a good teaching moment.

In the end, it isn't our job to try and manage other teams parents behavior. The only way their behavior is going to change is when someone within their own group has the balls to stand up and tell them it is unacceptable.  In most situations I would think this would be the coach, but obviously he doesn't take much issue with it since its been going on for years now.  It is a black eye for their team and in the end all these parents do is take the shine away from their own girls that are a pretty good team.

There are always going to be people like this and contrary to popular belief not everyone can be fixed, nor do many of them want to be.  Your approach is the correct one in using it to teach your own kids and that is the value that comes out of it.  Our kids are going to have to face people like this throughout their entire lives and the sooner they can learn to ignore them the better off they will be in the end.

yellowcard5 wrote:

boilerjoe_96 wrote:

Peak_Performance_Dad wrote:

Edmund Burke once said "All that is needed for evil to prevail is for good men to do nothing."  While I don't intend to incite religion or morals into the conversation, I do think there should be an acceptable standard of behavior (regardless of moral or values) that is maintained by all parents at all matches.  I can't imagine how a parent or adult could feel that swearing in anger or threatening to fight adds any value to their DDs development or the overall experience of these 11 year olds.  More than likely, it is reflective of the lack of discipline and self control by these parents and the values/morals they maintain.

I do have a problem with the way the DTS parents acted on Friday (and Sun as well, from what has been shared).  While I can voice my concern and use it (as I have) to teach my DD about the behaviors that lead to success (and those that don't) in life, I will always voice my concerns when adults start acting like children in front of children.  No value ever comes from this...ever...for anyone.  I would hope that those parents on DTS who do not act this way would help this parent / these parents understand that this behavior is not appropriate ever.

+1

You should voice your concerns.  My point is that voicing them on a soccer forum is not going to yield the results that can make a difference.  Take the appropriate action and call NTX Soccer, Dallas Texans, Tournament Director, etc and let them know what happened.  These organizations do not take kindly to this type of behavior because it hurts their brand.  You have to go through the process, but in the end if one moron can be removed from the sidelines we are all better off.

Coach wrote:

yellowcard5 wrote:

boilerjoe_96 wrote:

Peak_Performance_Dad wrote:

Edmund Burke once said "All that is needed for evil to prevail is for good men to do nothing."  While I don't intend to incite religion or morals into the conversation, I do think there should be an acceptable standard of behavior (regardless of moral or values) that is maintained by all parents at all matches.  I can't imagine how a parent or adult could feel that swearing in anger or threatening to fight adds any value to their DDs development or the overall experience of these 11 year olds.  More than likely, it is reflective of the lack of discipline and self control by these parents and the values/morals they maintain.

I do have a problem with the way the DTS parents acted on Friday (and Sun as well, from what has been shared).  While I can voice my concern and use it (as I have) to teach my DD about the behaviors that lead to success (and those that don't) in life, I will always voice my concerns when adults start acting like children in front of children.  No value ever comes from this...ever...for anyone.  I would hope that those parents on DTS who do not act this way would help this parent / these parents understand that this behavior is not appropriate ever.

+1

You should voice your concerns.  My point is that voicing them on a soccer forum is not going to yield the results that can make a difference.  Take the appropriate action and call NTX Soccer, Dallas Texans, Tournament Director, etc and let them know what happened.  These organizations do not take kindly to this type of behavior because it hurts their brand.  You have to go through the process, but in the end if one moron can be removed from the sidelines we are all better off.

You don't think that page after page of being called out hurts their brand?
Sometimes keeping it "in house" just sweeps it under the rug.

progressiveparent wrote:Glad to know GotSoccer has finally become 'legit'.

FUNFORGame wrote:Never Judge without Knowing the Whole Story...

This is something we all should have learned growing up and we should be teaching our DD's. No excuses for anyone's actions however if you are across the field and only going off your own opinion on what you saw from the other side of the field it is hard to understand on how you know the whole story. I guess some people wanted to be writers or wanted to sound important or just deflect the attention from their own issues or unexciting DD's team.
No one reacts without being pushed just remember there is always two sides to a story. HAVE A NICE DAY

go99 wrote:

FUNFORGame wrote:Never Judge without Knowing the Whole Story...

This is something we all should have learned growing up and we should be teaching our DD's. No excuses for anyone's actions however if you are across the field and only going off your own opinion on what you saw from the other side of the field it is hard to understand on how you know the whole story. I guess some people wanted to be writers or wanted to sound important or just deflect the attention from their own issues or unexciting DD's team.
No one reacts without being pushed just remember there is always two sides to a story. HAVE A NICE DAY

What??? people react without being pushed all the time.  They just imagine their own slights.  It's kind of part of the whole being crazy thing.  PLEASE PLEASE tell me you are the crazy mom.  Oh this day is getting so much better if you are

TatonkaBurger wrote:

go99 wrote:

FUNFORGame wrote:Never Judge without Knowing the Whole Story...

This is something we all should have learned growing up and we should be teaching our DD's. No excuses for anyone's actions however if you are across the field and only going off your own opinion on what you saw from the other side of the field it is hard to understand on how you know the whole story. I guess some people wanted to be writers or wanted to sound important or just deflect the attention from their own issues or unexciting DD's team.
No one reacts without being pushed just remember there is always two sides to a story. HAVE A NICE DAY

What??? people react without being pushed all the time.  They just imagine their own slights.  It's kind of part of the whole being crazy thing.  PLEASE PLEASE tell me you are the crazy mom.  Oh this day is getting so much better if you are

Hurry!!  Someone provoke her!!

textigerfan wrote:I know all the story I need to know to get a good laugh out of "grown ups" thinking an '04 girls soccer game is important enough to go that overboard on the sidelines.  Of course, we have all had our "not so great" moments on the sidelines of our little DDs games at some point.  Still just soccer and the vast majority will not sniff a college field.  So, remember to try to keep it fun.  If not, what is the point?