Re: Have a seat...but not right there

by soccerjack 09/09/14, 10:33 am

silentparent wrote:
CoachKyle101 wrote:
loveofthegame wrote:Ok all, I read on the forums, try not to get sucked into debates/arguments but wanted to get feedback on something that I am starting to see trend. Follow me if you will:

Plano Labor Day tournament and our team was warming up at the North end of the field while the game before us finished up. As the game ended, our merry band of travelers with chairs, pop up tents, etc walk to the North end of the sidelines to set up camp. Meanwhile, our opponent, who was warming up on the South end mind you, makes a beeline across the field and straight for the bench on the North end. Now here come the opposing parents weaving their way inbetween all of our parents and setting up, then COMPLAINING that we were on THEIR sideline. After a few muffled comments (on both sides mind you, nobody's perfect here), we pack up all of our stuff and go to the other side. But that's not where it stops! A few of the dads from the opposing team walk down and stand on OUR side to coach (read yell at) their kids. Where and when do you draw the line? Debate begins......NOW!

A couple of questions for you here:

1. What is your purpose of having your daughter in club soccer?

Is it so that she is on a winning team and is winning week in and week out? Is it so that she gets better at something she loves and has fun at the same time? By fighting or thinking there is a "side" to sit on on the sideline, you've already sent the message that this is not a game, but rather life or death and you must win at all costs. You've sent the message that it is us against them, and that this is not a friendly competition.

The purpose of playing the other team is take what you've learned in practice and apply it in live action. Is it nice to win? Sure. Should you try to win? Yes, but it should not be the only goal.

2. Why does it matter if parents from the other team come sit by you or stand by you?

Have a good time, socialize and watch the game with a fellow dad. It will make your experience so much better in regards to the whole club thing, and who knows you may find a fellow Manchester United fan to go down to the local pub and watch games on Saturday morning with.

I will tell you this, in college some of the best times before an American Football game was spent in the parking lot with the other team's fans. It's great to get to know other people and possibly experience a "different" culture.

don't coaches have better things to do then argue with parents on a forum?

That's classic. Doesn't a "Soccer Coach" have better things to do than be on a "Soccer Board". I would think you might have better things to do than making Dumba$$ statements on every topic every 5 minutes. I try to keep my Dumba$$ statements to once a week.

by FCsoccer1 09/09/14, 10:40 am

I agree with coachkyle, best experience is when you meet other parent and build a network.

You got to understand though why we are all programmed to go to our own corners. Mian issue is some individuals messed it all up. An argument here or there and then it gets all out of control.

by sportsnerd 09/09/14, 10:55 am

I have no problem with the parents mingling as long as cooler heads prevail. We had an instance where there was a breakaway and the goalie took out the attacker after she was easily past her and a foul was called on goalie. Now as this was last defender and denied a goal scoring opportunity we all yelled for a red card or at the minimum a yellow (if ref was hesitant to pull the red as most are). Now GK parents were on our end mingling and of course took offense at us saying their little suzy should get a card, there was no way on earth there little angel deserved any card for the blatant foul. This lead to some tension and I believe Marshals had to be called over to try and get some calm restored. Moral of the story is my belief that if you mingle among the opponents you better be prepared to hear some negatives and also have thick skin and self control... all of the reasons I stay way down on our teams ends for the entire game.

by Lakedad 09/09/14, 11:07 am

Sporting events at any age illicit emotion and passion. If you come down to a sideline that is made up of mostly parents on the other team and start yelling things like "Shut them up" to your daughter, you weigh the risk of having a verbal and potentially a physical confrontation.

by Guest 09/09/14, 11:23 am

soccerjack wrote:
silentparent wrote:
CoachKyle101 wrote:
loveofthegame wrote:Ok all, I read on the forums, try not to get sucked into debates/arguments but wanted to get feedback on something that I am starting to see trend. Follow me if you will:

Plano Labor Day tournament and our team was warming up at the North end of the field while the game before us finished up. As the game ended, our merry band of travelers with chairs, pop up tents, etc walk to the North end of the sidelines to set up camp. Meanwhile, our opponent, who was warming up on the South end mind you, makes a beeline across the field and straight for the bench on the North end. Now here come the opposing parents weaving their way inbetween all of our parents and setting up, then COMPLAINING that we were on THEIR sideline. After a few muffled comments (on both sides mind you, nobody's perfect here), we pack up all of our stuff and go to the other side. But that's not where it stops! A few of the dads from the opposing team walk down and stand on OUR side to coach (read yell at) their kids. Where and when do you draw the line? Debate begins......NOW!

A couple of questions for you here:

1. What is your purpose of having your daughter in club soccer?

Is it so that she is on a winning team and is winning week in and week out? Is it so that she gets better at something she loves and has fun at the same time? By fighting or thinking there is a "side" to sit on on the sideline, you've already sent the message that this is not a game, but rather life or death and you must win at all costs. You've sent the message that it is us against them, and that this is not a friendly competition.

The purpose of playing the other team is take what you've learned in practice and apply it in live action. Is it nice to win? Sure. Should you try to win? Yes, but it should not be the only goal.

2. Why does it matter if parents from the other team come sit by you or stand by you?

Have a good time, socialize and watch the game with a fellow dad. It will make your experience so much better in regards to the whole club thing, and who knows you may find a fellow Manchester United fan to go down to the local pub and watch games on Saturday morning with.

I will tell you this, in college some of the best times before an American Football game was spent in the parking lot with the other team's fans. It's great to get to know other people and possibly experience a "different" culture.

don't coaches have better things to do then argue with parents on a forum?

That's classic. Doesn't a "Soccer Coach" have better things to do than be on a "Soccer Board". I would think you might have better things to do than making Dumba$$ statements on every topic every 5 minutes. I try to keep my Dumba$$ statements to once a week.

Good luck with your dumbass quota. I said and still believe coaches have better things to do than get into arguments with parents on a soccer forum..

by Tatanka 09/09/14, 12:58 pm

Stay on your side! If you must stand on the other side, then be respectful. Strike up a conversation with the other team's parents. Compliment that parent's child.

by Guest 09/09/14, 01:21 pm

runchuck wrote:Stay on your side! If you must stand on the other side, then be respectful. Strike up a conversation with the other team's parents. Compliment that parent's child.

by AKeepersMomma 09/09/14, 02:11 pm

Borussia wrote:Just laugh it off. It shows either their lack of knowledge of the ettiquete of the game... Or well, some people just cant be helped...

Yep

by AKeepersMomma 09/09/14, 02:14 pm

db10 wrote:Question: why pay a coach / club $3000 a year if you feel that you have to follow little Suzy around the field and coach her from the sidelines? Or better, the GK parents who feel the must switch ends of the field along with their daughter...

GK Parent should get special privileges and a coach is one thing a keeper coach is something different.

by AKeepersMomma 09/09/14, 02:17 pm

Firebird wrote:Reply: since I pay a coach / club $3000, we GK parents can switch ends of the field along with our daughter to get a front row seat and enjoy the game...

amen preach it brother!!

by Wired 09/09/14, 03:00 pm

I guess since my DD is a center mid, I'll run up and down the field next to her. Boy I hope she doesn't decide to run track, I'm not in that great of shape. Because I paid my $3000 and that's the only way I can enjoy it.

by Guest 09/09/14, 03:08 pm

Simple solution, like a said before conduct yourself like you have half a brain and it doesn't matter where you sit, stand, squat or lay. It's a moot point.

by SOUTHOFTHETRACKS 09/09/14, 03:09 pm

Well, I believe the anus is on the Parents of both teams to get out of my way so I can watch my DD! #theticket

by Guest 09/09/14, 03:12 pm

SOUTHOFTHETRACKS wrote:Well, I believe the anus is on the Parents of both teams to get out of my way so I can watch my DD! #theticket

i would settle for their "anus" in a seat on the opposite side of me... Razz

by Guest 09/09/14, 03:32 pm

SOUTHOFTHETRACKS wrote:Well, I believe the anus is on the Parents of both teams to get out of my way so I can watch my DD! #theticket

"THE ANUS???" - Cobra

(well played South...) Smile

by Guest 09/09/14, 03:46 pm

SOUTHOFTHETRACKS wrote:Well, I believe the anus is on the Parents of both teams to get out of my way so I can watch my DD! #theticket

by Tatanka 10/09/14, 06:54 am

AKeepersMomma wrote:
db10 wrote:Question: why pay a coach / club $3000 a year if you feel that you have to follow little Suzy around the field and coach her from the sidelines? Or better, the GK parents who feel the must switch ends of the field along with their daughter...

GK Parent should get special privileges and a coach is one thing a keeper coach is something different.

I'm a reformed GK parent. My better half had to show me a video of what I looked like yelling at my dd ....needless to say, I stopped and my dd's play improved considerably. don't expect this video to be released by TMZ....

by Tatanka 10/09/14, 06:55 am

SOUTHOFTHETRACKS wrote:Well, I believe the anus is on the Parents of both teams to get out of my way so I can watch my DD! #theticket

by locacabeza 10/09/14, 07:19 am

silentparent wrote:
soccerjack wrote:
silentparent wrote:
CoachKyle101 wrote:
loveofthegame wrote:Ok all, I read on the forums, try not to get sucked into debates/arguments but wanted to get feedback on something that I am starting to see trend. Follow me if you will:

Plano Labor Day tournament and our team was warming up at the North end of the field while the game before us finished up. As the game ended, our merry band of travelers with chairs, pop up tents, etc walk to the North end of the sidelines to set up camp. Meanwhile, our opponent, who was warming up on the South end mind you, makes a beeline across the field and straight for the bench on the North end. Now here come the opposing parents weaving their way inbetween all of our parents and setting up, then COMPLAINING that we were on THEIR sideline. After a few muffled comments (on both sides mind you, nobody's perfect here), we pack up all of our stuff and go to the other side. But that's not where it stops! A few of the dads from the opposing team walk down and stand on OUR side to coach (read yell at) their kids. Where and when do you draw the line? Debate begins......NOW!

A couple of questions for you here:

1. What is your purpose of having your daughter in club soccer?

Is it so that she is on a winning team and is winning week in and week out? Is it so that she gets better at something she loves and has fun at the same time? By fighting or thinking there is a "side" to sit on on the sideline, you've already sent the message that this is not a game, but rather life or death and you must win at all costs. You've sent the message that it is us against them, and that this is not a friendly competition.

The purpose of playing the other team is take what you've learned in practice and apply it in live action. Is it nice to win? Sure. Should you try to win? Yes, but it should not be the only goal.

2. Why does it matter if parents from the other team come sit by you or stand by you?

Have a good time, socialize and watch the game with a fellow dad. It will make your experience so much better in regards to the whole club thing, and who knows you may find a fellow Manchester United fan to go down to the local pub and watch games on Saturday morning with.

I will tell you this, in college some of the best times before an American Football game was spent in the parking lot with the other team's fans. It's great to get to know other people and possibly experience a "different" culture.

don't coaches have better things to do then argue with parents on a forum?

That's classic. Doesn't a "Soccer Coach" have better things to do than be on a "Soccer Board". I would think you might have better things to do than making Dumba$$ statements on every topic every 5 minutes. I try to keep my Dumba$$ statements to once a week.
Good luck with your dumbass quota. I said and still believe coaches have better things to do than get into arguments with parents on a soccer forum..

This is for you SP:

Have a seat...but not right there - Page 2 DbCKw2O

by Guest 10/09/14, 08:49 am

lol, locabeza reminds me of the redneck JT in "My cousin vinnie".....

J.T.: Hey there, little Yankee boy. Look what I got.
Vinny Gambini: What is it?
J.T.: $200.
Vinny Gambini: Bring it here, let me see it.
[J.T. presents a roll of bills]
Vinny Gambini: How do I know that's not a bunch of ones with a twenty wrapped around it?
J.T.: [after short pause] It's two hundred bucks.
Vinny Gambini: Fan it out, show it to me.
[pause. J.T. stuffs the roll back in his pocket]
Vinny Gambini: Yeah, right.

by Guest 10/09/14, 09:04 am

Just this past weekend, the entire opposing team's parents sat on the wrong side. I arrived late, so maybe they were there first and didn't want to move.

The funny thing to me was when when the opposing team MEN got defensive about our soccer mom's crying foul. Is this real life?

by Guest 10/09/14, 09:36 am

Cobra_Kai wrote:Just this past weekend, the entire opposing team's parents sat on the wrong side. I arrived late, so maybe they were there first and didn't want to move.

The funny thing to me was when when the opposing team MEN got defensive about our soccer mom's crying foul. Is this real life?

That was hillarious to see. Kind of hard for us to be late seeing as how our coach had that bench and side of field for at least 2 game before ours for other games, and still had the field after our game ended....

by sendit 10/09/14, 10:26 am

Just dont try to inch your way under my tent on those hot days.

by dreadpirateroberts 10/09/14, 10:50 am

AKeepersMomma wrote:
db10 wrote:Question: why pay a coach / club $3000 a year if you feel that you have to follow little Suzy around the field and coach her from the sidelines? Or better, the GK parents who feel the must switch ends of the field along with their daughter...

GK Parent should get special privileges and a coach is one thing a keeper coach is something different.

Why?? Sit (stand, yell, whatever) on you own side. Your kid will survive one half with you 50 yards away. I promise.

by SteamingBean 10/09/14, 11:51 am

I have friends on almost every enemy team, so it's not unusual for us to be off to the side, either team's side, wishing a beer cart would drive by, talking college football or about how badly we all need vacations but we are stuck here instead.

by Guest 10/09/14, 11:55 am

SteamingBean wrote:I have friends on almost every enemy team, so it's not unusual for us to be off to the side, either team's side, wishing a beer cart would drive by, talking college football or about how badly we all need vacations but we are stuck here instead.

i think if you must come to another teams side, do so behind the first row of parents and be quiet and watch and then no one cares...

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