Closed Texan Practices

InaB wrote:Ok, I am going to confess. I have missed only six games since my DD started playing soccer at the age of 4. I have probably missed at the most 12 practices. Over dedicated you say? You are probably right. However, I try to keep my backseat coaching to myself. Yes, I do forget occasionally and yell out a "Way to go!" Or take an odd moment to quickly say pick up your feet as she jogs past me. However, I know that coaching is what I pay my coach for.



I am really there because I love to watch her play - games or practice. I love to see the intensity in her face as she squares off. I love it when she does the airplane after scoring. I also love it when I see her reach down to a team mate and help them up or consoles them when they are hurt. How long will I have these moments to enjoy? For me, it isn't as much about being a parent as it is about taking in every moment of seeing her develop as a young girl.



I want her to listen to the coach. I want the coach to see her as I do - sometimes goofy, sometimes funny, sometimes magic on the field. I don't usually sit right next to the practice field. However, I do sit close enough so I can watch what she does while I talk to the other parents. I do the same thing when I take her for private coaching. The coach is paid to train her. I am paid to love her. (And yes, I do sneak in the occassional tips.)



At games I yell for her (just ask anyone who has lost their hearing sitting next to me) but it is to encourage her and not to coach her. I think a Run baby, run is entirely all right! Afterwards, I talk about the really good things she did and if there was something she could have done better, I mention it in passing. (And before you hit me with it, no I am not a saint - for I do have those few moments when she gets the "what were you thinking" sentences.



That is why I like to see her practice as well as play. I don't want to miss the joy, or the ups and downs. None of this will happen again - maybe something similar, but not what happened today. I feel the same way at home and about her brother and sister. Before I know it, she will be 13 and know EVERYTHING!



How many moments will we have with our children? Would I allow any team, group, etc., deny my time with her and reveling in watching her grow up before my eyes, not on your life. I am fine with watching from my car, or from a distance. I may not see every move she makes, but I want to share this experience with her for as long as I have. I know this is business for the clubs and the coaches. But my DD is a big part of my life - one that will slowly change when she gets too old to have me sticking around.



I can only end this missive with an equally mushy ending - Go hug your DD and thank your lucky stars that she was entrusted to you. And next year, if you don't like the contract (assuming you read the fine print), go to another club.

InaB wrote:Ok, I am going to confess. I have missed only six games since my DD started playing soccer at the age of 4. I have probably missed at the most 12 practices. Over dedicated you say? You are probably right. However, I try to keep my backseat coaching to myself. Yes, I do forget occasionally and yell out a "Way to go!" Or take an odd moment to quickly say pick up your feet as she jogs past me. However, I know that coaching is what I pay my coach for.



I am really there because I love to watch her play - games or practice. I love to see the intensity in her face as she squares off. I love it when she does the airplane after scoring. I also love it when I see her reach down to a team mate and help them up or consoles them when they are hurt. How long will I have these moments to enjoy? For me, it isn't as much about being a parent as it is about taking in every moment of seeing her develop as a young girl.



I want her to listen to the coach. I want the coach to see her as I do - sometimes goofy, sometimes funny, sometimes magic on the field. I don't usually sit right next to the practice field. However, I do sit close enough so I can watch what she does while I talk to the other parents. I do the same thing when I take her for private coaching. The coach is paid to train her. I am paid to love her. (And yes, I do sneak in the occassional tips.)



At games I yell for her (just ask anyone who has lost their hearing sitting next to me) but it is to encourage her and not to coach her. I think a Run baby, run is entirely all right! Afterwards, I talk about the really good things she did and if there was something she could have done better, I mention it in passing. (And before you hit me with it, no I am not a saint - for I do have those few moments when she gets the "what were you thinking" sentences.



That is why I like to see her practice as well as play. I don't want to miss the joy, or the ups and downs. None of this will happen again - maybe something similar, but not what happened today. I feel the same way at home and about her brother and sister. Before I know it, she will be 13 and know EVERYTHING!



How many moments will we have with our children? Would I allow any team, group, etc., deny my time with her and reveling in watching her grow up before my eyes, not on your life. I am fine with watching from my car, or from a distance. I may not see every move she makes, but I want to share this experience with her for as long as I have. I know this is business for the clubs and the coaches. But my DD is a big part of my life - one that will slowly change when she gets too old to have me sticking around.



I can only end this missive with an equally mushy ending - Go hug your DD and thank your lucky stars that she was entrusted to you. And next year, if you don't like the contract (assuming you read the fine print), go to another club.

InaB wrote:Ok, I am going to confess. I have missed only six games since my DD started playing soccer at the age of 4. I have probably missed at the most 12 practices. Over dedicated you say? You are probably right. However, I try to keep my backseat coaching to myself. Yes, I do forget occasionally and yell out a "Way to go!" Or take an odd moment to quickly say pick up your feet as she jogs past me. However, I know that coaching is what I pay my coach for.



I am really there because I love to watch her play - games or practice. I love to see the intensity in her face as she squares off. I love it when she does the airplane after scoring. I also love it when I see her reach down to a team mate and help them up or consoles them when they are hurt. How long will I have these moments to enjoy? For me, it isn't as much about being a parent as it is about taking in every moment of seeing her develop as a young girl.



I want her to listen to the coach. I want the coach to see her as I do - sometimes goofy, sometimes funny, sometimes magic on the field. I don't usually sit right next to the practice field. However, I do sit close enough so I can watch what she does while I talk to the other parents. I do the same thing when I take her for private coaching. The coach is paid to train her. I am paid to love her. (And yes, I do sneak in the occassional tips.)



At games I yell for her (just ask anyone who has lost their hearing sitting next to me) but it is to encourage her and not to coach her. I think a Run baby, run is entirely all right! Afterwards, I talk about the really good things she did and if there was something she could have done better, I mention it in passing. (And before you hit me with it, no I am not a saint - for I do have those few moments when she gets the "what were you thinking" sentences.



That is why I like to see her practice as well as play. I don't want to miss the joy, or the ups and downs. None of this will happen again - maybe something similar, but not what happened today. I feel the same way at home and about her brother and sister. Before I know it, she will be 13 and know EVERYTHING!



How many moments will we have with our children? Would I allow any team, group, etc., deny my time with her and reveling in watching her grow up before my eyes, not on your life. I am fine with watching from my car, or from a distance. I may not see every move she makes, but I want to share this experience with her for as long as I have. I know this is business for the clubs and the coaches. But my DD is a big part of my life - one that will slowly change when she gets too old to have me sticking around.



I can only end this missive with an equally mushy ending - Go hug your DD and thank your lucky stars that she was entrusted to you. And next year, if you don't like the contract (assuming you read the fine print), go to another club.

03N Texan wrote:You guys are funny! This isn't about the kids or the coaches or the parents. It's about their precious fields! It's just like the discussion that occured around King Tut and not cancelling for the high temperatures.....They don't cancel for the kids....they cancel (for rain) for their precious fields! If there was more to it, all the Texans practices would be closed....but they don't really care if other locations get messy.

anselansel wrote:" As a coach for many years, one of the worst things to deal with is"

having parents holding you accountable for the thousands of dollars they are paying you.....

txtransplant wrote:Is the team escorted in by the manager? Do they arrive as a group and leave as a group? And how many other teams are training at the same time? The likelihood of any "inappropriatness" happening is nil. And the reason managers have emergency contact info, doctor's information, is in case their is an emergency.

Let's call it what it is... parents are ticked off because they can't give up the control, to allow their children to be taught by someone else without second guessing the person they entrusted and are paying to do their job correctly.

You know, I went to summer camp every year as a kid. Said goodbye to the parents on Sunday and wouldn't see/nor talk to them for two weeks. I loved it as much as they did.

Sometimes these rules are in place so the kids can get a break from their parents' riding their butts during practice. Embarrassing them during games is bad enough.

InaB wrote:Quite obviously Free you have some animosity toward parents and a definite issue with weight (specifically about female ones).
Not all parents are of the toddlers and tiaras variety. I can see that perhaps you coached a few years too many and may have had some difficult parents to deal with.

I don't believe in giving my DD the "stink eye" as you call it unless I see her doing cartwheels or something equally inane on the field instead of listening to her coach. So far, this hasn't happened since her early days.

As to sibblings, I will give you that one. Nothing is worse than having little ones running around. But to be fair, most of those brought to our practice stay away from the girls while they practice.

As to the thousands of Texan players thanking God for the ruling, I can't say for sure that they are anymore than you.

I am sorry that you have had such bad experiences as a coach that it has soured you to this extent. If you are still coaching, I will keep good thoughts that you an your parents and players come together in unity and peace.

InaB wrote:Yeah, Vodka and wine work much better at practices!

freefl2 wrote:
It was just a joke. Sorry if I offended anyone. Would it be better if I said the Super Model mom, with her green tea, Gucci Bag, Bebe Glasses, surfing her Ipad, giving the stink eye....

enjoysoccer wrote:When are they going to start charging for parking in their precious 20 space parking lot?

mudhead wrote:My DD's former coach was arrested last year and remains in jail on child porn and drug charges. He was a control freak, but I would not have suspected him of either of these activities. I have 25+ years of experience in the mental health and corrections fields and never saw it coming. He never touched, approached, or acted inappropriately with our DD, but after this expereicnce I would not allow anything like what the Texans are proposing with my DD. Especially at this age and stage the family aspect of soccer is one of the things that make it attractive, at least to us.

giggedy wrote:Did anyone actually read Bustya's post from the Texan's? I'm assuming it is word for word from their contracts. Well, I don't see where it bans the parents from practices anywhere. Am I missing something? It seems to me that there is quite a bit of assuming going on? Where does it say that the parents are not welcome or can not attend practices? It basically says that there are a few times that the parents are "asked" to be present. That does not necessarily say, or even imply, that they aren't to be there at any of the other practices.

I have asked some of my Texan friends about this. None of them have ever been run from a practice or even been asked not to be there. Can't any of you knee-jerkers do a little investigation yourselves?

Instead, everyone runs amok with their own interpretation of what they most likely skimmed or didn't even read. Now, it seems that this club employs child molesters and is looking for ways to separate the children from their parents and do dastardly things. Some of you should be ashamed of the implications you made against this club.

BastaYa! wrote:"...... While the support and excitement of the parents is appreciated, we will only on occasion ask that the parents be present for training because we try to reduce the pressure and expectancy that young players can feel when they play with the Dallas Texans so they can relax and enjoy playing in an uninhibited way.... Any training session where the attendance of the parents is requested will be announced beforehand."

giggedy wrote:Instead, everyone runs amok with their own interpretation of what they most likely skimmed or didn't even read. Now, it seems that this club employs child molesters and is looking for ways to separate the children from their parents and do dastardly things. Some of you should be ashamed of the implications you made against this club.