PreSelect Year - How to interpret this email?

Wait, do you think this should be a sticky? It is important information.

cluemein wrote:This really isnt going how I meant. All I was asking was "do we take that as any sort of commitment."
Please stop responding to this.

The answer to your question is NO. Or YES, until the coach finds someone better than your DD. It's in the NTX rules, look it up. Until you sign a contract at U11+, there is no such thing as a commitment by either party.

You may be blessed to have an upright(+)coach who gives you assurances and indications that s/he is committed to your DD, and you can count on his/her word. But legally, contractually, systemically, there is no binding commitment by either party.

(+) based on the content of email, I will leave it to your good judgment to decide if this coach is upright....

Ajax wrote:Please stop responding to this.

Funny![/quote]

"Here is the list of Players that are not allowed to play or train with any other team..."

Absolutely psychotic! The wording is so unbelievable, it's hard to even take it seriously. But just watch and see how many parents stick around with this coach who has revealed the extent to which he is a control freak. I can promise you that MOST of the parents who received this email consider their daughters to be "privileged" and would have been only too happy to keep it all a secret.

Rather than post on this site seeking information from a bunch of people like me who use funny animal avatars to conceal their identity, why not simply call the manager and ask him/her what the email means? However, at this point, anyone who asks questions will likely be presumed to be the person that posted the "secret" email.

Seriously, teams that are "managed" like a black ops program probably have a higher statistical likelihood of producing more drama than most of us want for our 10 year old's club soccer experience.

This post will self-destruct in 20 seconds . . .

What do they do during PE if the gym teacher divides them into teams? Do they have to sit out? Did they get a note. Man this reaks of DM.

I bet there will be some whispers at next practice, becuase a group of parents will know 100% that this is about their team and they will be wondering who broke the locker room code, while others will be oblivious...but the best will be the ones that didn't get the email but thinks this is their team. They will be beside themselves trying to pry. How many top teams in 03 land got a new coach who is probably runs an obvious coachtatorship at practice.

This teams implodes and it is all on the OP.

Also, Saul is not a funny animal.

Xara wrote:"Here is the list of Players that are not allowed to play or train with any other team..."

Absolutely psychotic! The wording is so unbelievable, it's hard to even take it seriously. But just watch and see how many parents stick around with this coach who has revealed the extent to which he is a control freak. I can promise you that MOST of the parents who received this email consider their daughters to be "privileged" and would have been only too happy to keep it all a secret.

Agreed. Plus, there is no such thing as a secret in youth soccer.

cluemein wrote:This really isnt going how I meant. All I was asking was "do we take that as any sort of commitment."
Please stop responding to this.

That's what people are answering, and the answer is 'not really'. There IS no commitment prior to contract signing, it's as simple as that. I have an 02 boy. We had 'firm' committments from parents prior to June and I was laughed off these boards as being naive because the coach relied on them then 8 players bailed mid-June. Lesson learned; take any committment prior to 7/1 with a boulder of salt. Better coach/team comes along, player bails. Better player comes along, coach can boot you.

copa44 wrote:

cluemein wrote:This really isnt going how I meant. All I was asking was "do we take that as any sort of commitment."
Please stop responding to this.

That's what people are answering, and the answer is 'not really'. There IS no commitment prior to contract signing, it's as simple as that. I have an 02 boy. We had 'firm' committments from parents prior to June and I was laughed off these boards as being naive because the coach relied on them then 8 players bailed mid-June. Lesson learned; take any committment prior to 7/1 with a boulder of salt. Better coach/team comes along, player bails. Better player comes along, coach can boot you.

You mean it's not all about the kids and the love of the game?

Q: Does email in OP's question mean coach is committed to your dd for U11 season;
A: No. It means only that he doesn't want her getting recruited away from him.

I know this coach and he is wily as a fox!

He sent the email to those players he does NOT want to keep, knowing that they will come to this forum and be advised to leave. They will go to another team, leaving him only with his chosen core group.

Well played Coach!

Just got a text from the nanny of the team manager of my DD's '03 team: "cooch sey U no go. Kids back after U sign"

I didnt realize the club offered free babsittying. Can anyone tell me what this means?

cluemein wrote:This really isnt going how I meant. All I was asking was "do we take that as any sort of commitment."
Please stop responding to this.

You cannot be serious.

Urajoke wrote:

cluemein wrote:This really isnt going how I meant. All I was asking was "do we take that as any sort of commitment."
Please stop responding to this.

You cannot be serious.

Agreed - there is a level of stupidty here that such a email would ever be written or sent out. I can not believe you could trust this long-term, and short-term just relax and make sure you always keep fun as the top ingrediant in your childs journey - without that they won't be playing for many years to come.

Hook It wrote:

Urajoke wrote:

cluemein wrote:This really isnt going how I meant. All I was asking was "do we take that as any sort of commitment."
Please stop responding to this.

You cannot be serious.

Agreed - there is a level of stupidty here that such a email would ever be written or sent out. I can not believe you could trust this long-term, and short-term just relax and make sure you always keep fun as the top ingrediant in your childs journey - without that they won't be playing for many years to come.

OH I don't think cluemein is having fun at this time!

totalsoccer wrote:

Hook It wrote:

Urajoke wrote:

cluemein wrote:This really isnt going how I meant. All I was asking was "do we take that as any sort of commitment."
Please stop responding to this.

You cannot be serious.

Agreed - there is a level of stupidty here that such a email would ever be written or sent out. I can not believe you could trust this long-term, and short-term just relax and make sure you always keep fun as the top ingrediant in your childs journey - without that they won't be playing for many years to come.

OH I don't think cluemein is having fun at this time!

It can be gut wrenching indeed, but that just means the PP really cares about thier kid. No nice to be in a happy place. Winning first few games also helps....

Your right! This will pass just like all the other threads! Always think on the bright side!